One of the major reasons people are not doing well is because they keep trying to get through the day. A more worthy challenge is to try to get from the day.
We must become sensitive enough to observe and ponder what is happening around us. Be alert. Be awake. Let life and all of its subtle messages touch us. Often the most extraordinary opportunities are hidden among the seemingly insignificant events of life. If we do not pay attention to these events, we can easily miss the opportunities.
We must become good observers and astute evaluators of all that is going on around us. All events affect us, and what affects us leaves an imprint on what we will one day be and how we will one day live. Our philosophy about activity and our attitude about hard work will affect the quality of our lives.
Every time we choose to do less than we could, this error in judgment has an effect on our self-confidence. Repeated every day, we soon find ourselves not only doing less than we should, but also being less than we could. The accumulative effect of this error in judgment can be devastating. Fortunately, it’s easy to reverse the process.
Today we can develop a new discipline of observing rather than ignoring, of doing rather than neglecting. Every time we choose action over ease or labor over rest, we develop an increasing level of self-worth, self-respect and self-confidence.
It is how we feel about ourselves that provides the greatest reward from any activity. It is not what we get that makes us valuable; it is what we become in the process of doing that brings value into our lives. It is activity that converts human dreams into human reality, and that conversion from idea into actuality gives us a personal value that can come from no other source.
So be a good observer of the world around you and enjoy the hard work you put into enterprising—then enjoy it to its fullest!
“Never go back.” What does that mean? From observations of successful people, clinical psychologist and author of Never Go Back: 10 Things You’ll Never Do Again(Howard Books, June 2014), Dr. Henry Cloud has discovered certain “awakenings” that people have—in life and in business—that once they have them, they never go back to the old way of doing things. And when that happens, they are never the same. In short, they got it.
“Years ago, a bad business decision of mine led to an interesting discussion with my mentor,” Dr. Cloud says. “I had learned a valuable lesson the hard way, and he reassured me: ‘The good thing is once you learn that lesson, you never go back. It’s one thing you will never do again.’
“I wondered, what are the key awakenings that successful people go through that forever change how they do things, which propel them to succeed in business, relationships, and life? I began to study these awakenings, researching them over the years.”
Although life and business have many lessons to teach us, Dr. Cloud observed 10 “doorways” of learning that high performers go through, never to return again.
Successful people never again…
1. Return to what hasn’t worked.
Whether a job, or a broken relationship that was ended for a good reason, we should never go back to the same thing, expecting different results, without something being different.
2. Do anything that requires them to be someone they are not.
In everything we do, we have to ask ourselves, “Why am I doing this? Am I suited for it? Does it fit me? Is it sustainable?” If the answer is no to any of these questions, you better have a very good reason to proceed.
3. Try to change another person.
When you realize that you cannot force someone into doing something, you give him or her freedom and allow them to experience the consequences. In doing so, you find your own freedom as well. My experience has told me to never do again.
4. Believe they can please everyone.
Once you get that it truly is impossible to please everyone, you begin to live purposefully, trying to please the right people.
5. Choose short-term comfort over long-term benefit.
Once successful people know they want something that requires a painful, time-limited step, they do not mind the painful step because it gets them to a long-term benefit. Living out this principle is one of the most fundamental differences between successful and unsuccessful people, both personally and professionally.
6. Trust someone or something that appears flawless.
It’s natural for us to be drawn to things and people that appear “incredible.” We love excellence and should always be looking for it. We should pursue people who are great at what they do, employees who are high performers, dates who are exceptional people, friends who have stellar character, and companies that excel. But when someone or something looks too good to be true, he, she, or it is. The world is imperfect. Period. No one and no thing is without flaw, and if they appear that way, hit pause.
7. Take their eyes off the big picture.
We function better emotionally and perform better in our lives when we can see the big picture. For successful people, no one event is ever the whole story. Winners remember that – each and every day.
8. Neglect to do due diligence.
No matter how good something looks on the outside, it is only by taking a deeper, diligent, and honest look that we will find out what we truly need to know: the reality that we owe ourselves.
9. Fail to ask why they are where they find themselves.
One of the biggest differences between successful people and others is that in love and in life, in relationships and in business, successful people always ask themselves, what part am I playing in this situation? Said another way, they do not see themselves only as victims, even when they are.
10. Forget that their inner life determines their outer success.
This is one thing for sure I will never do again.
The good life sometimes has little to do with outside circumstances. We are happy and fulfilled mostly by who we are on the inside. Research validates that. And our internal lives largely contribute to producing many of our external circumstances.
And, the converse is true: people who are still trying to find success in various areas of life can almost always point to one or more of these patterns as a reason they are repeating the same mistakes.
Everyone makes mistakes…even the most successful people out there. But, what achievers do better than others is recognize the patterns that are causing those mistakes and never repeat them again. In short, they learn from pain—their own and the pain of others.
A good thing to remember is this: pain is unavoidable, but repeating the same pain twice, when we could choose to learn and do something different, is certainly avoidable. I like to say, “we don’t need new ways to fail….the old ones are working just fine!” Our task, in business and in life, is to observe what they are, and never go back to doing them again.
Lets displace the top 10 myths. It’s tempting to think that running a home-based business involves a few hours on the computer in the morning, a nice leisurely lunch, maybe a phone call or two in the afternoon before an early finish.
However, if your business is to be anything other than a mildly diverting sideline, you will have to put in the work.
“When you’re by yourself, you do everything – bookkeeping, marketing, sales, the lot,” says Christine Greig, who runs BestEverHomeBusiness.com from home and has done for 7 years.
“All of this takes a lot of time and people underestimate this. They often take things on as a hobby and then find it is very popular and organically grows. They don’t think long-term.”
Set a strategy for your business early on, have an in-depth business plan. And consider outsourcing – it’ll save you time.
2. You can sit back and get rich quickly.
Despite what the endless ads tell you, there aren’t any jobs that will earn you big bucks just by staying at home making the odd phone call.
You look at the content behind those stupid Google ads about homeworking and it promises that you’ll be working for about seven minutes a day.
You can be a success if you have the right business model but, if not, you’ll fall on your face.
People who are pushed into home working because they lose their job or think they will get rich quick are more likely to fall over. They set up a Facebook page and wonder why no one has turned up.
It’s better to start a business that you’re passionate about. You’re then more likely to be proactive and engage with people.
3. You don’t need to spend money on day care.
For busy parents, working from home may seem like the ideal solution – not only do you see more of your family but you also save money on day care for your children.
You will regularly, need a babysitter for your children, and hubby can help out, but you need the balance as you may need to go out for meetings.
Also, you won’t keep to normal working hours, kids at school?
4. It’s not a real job.
Perhaps the most hurtful myth about home-based working, is that it is somehow a lesser job. That it is a frivolous hobby for bored mothers or fathers, rather than a platform for fast-growth businesses, ignoring the fact that the likes of Google, FaceBook and Amazon started life as home-based start-ups.
People tell me “that it’s not a real job” a bit frustrating.
It has got a bit of a bad rap, look at the number of people who work from home. Look at what many of them go on to achieve. They are worthwhile businesses and they are contributing to the economy.
5th of the top 10 myths
All you’re doing is moving your job to your home.
This maybe so but the biggest advantage here is no commute. If you set up your office to be efficient tidy and productive you will find you will be more aware of what needs to be done and when. (efficiency). The way communication is now, nobody cares or would even know you are not sitting on the 36th floor, or sitting in your home office looking out of your window and in my case, a green paddock with 5 horses.
6. You don’t have to worry about health and safety.
If you are wallowing in a messy, potentially dangerous home-based office, you risk more than being called a slob.
Not only is your own health and safety important if you are to keep running your business, but any staff and clients will need to be protected too, as a recent case where Telstra had to pay medical and legal costs for an injured home worker highlighted.
Ensuring that your home is a safe workplace doesn’t happen by chance or guesswork.
It requires a systematic approach to finding and fixing hazards and risks and any particular circumstances that apply to your home working base.”
I advise going through five key steps to get your OHS in good shape:
*Finding hazards that could hurt the people who either live, work or visit your home.
*Family forums that bring together all of these people on a regular basis to make sure that they are as safety conscious as you are and
undertake the safety drills that are an essential part of hazard awareness.
*Figuring out how the people in and around your home life could get hurt and working life hazards (the level of risk).
*Fixing identified problems by sorting out and installing the most effective risk controls that are reasonably practicable under your
*Following through on your risk controls and checking that they are working to cope when things do not go according to plan.
7th of the top 10 myths
Your home life will remain exactly the same.
Home is a nice place to relax and turn off after a long, hard day at work. Surely, if you spend all day there, you will be permanently in the comfort zone?
Firstly, map your own interests and personal priorities and then set out how the start-up is going to help you achieve your objectives.
Be honest with yourself and answer these core questions: How will this venture change our way of life? What do I really like doing, and how will it shape my family’s future?
Who can support me while I get the business up and running? Where will all this take us and what will it cost to succeed?
Then you need to set aside a fixed amount of time for your business homework, when the kids have done theirs and get partners and friends to share the burden of developing your start-up as an adjunct to your family life rather than an alternative to it.
8. Clients won’t take you seriously.
Many budding entrepreneurs fret about the impression left upon clients by their home office.
Obviously, you don’t want to hold an important meeting with a key client while you are both wedged on the sofa, trying to ignore the child that is watching cartoons on the TV.
But this doesn’t mean that it’s impossible to convey a professional demeanour to clients.
If they have to come to your house, set aside a room for meetings and ensure there aren’t any interruptions. Better still, hold the meeting at a café or at a serviced office that you can rent out by the hour.
There are other tricks to making your business appear bigger, such as adopting a 1800 telephone number, but, ultimately, your customers will primarily care about the products or service you provide them. You working from home shouldn’t be a factor.
9th of the top 10 myths.
There’s no good financial reason, other than cutting overheads.
A common rationale for working from home is the money it will save you on office space, furniture and commuting.
But don’t be fooled into thinking that there is little other financial reason to working from home other than the overheads you’ll save on.
Australia’s tax code is fairly generous for entrepreneurs with home offices, with deductions offered for factors such as electricity, cleaning supplies, depreciation of office equipment, mortgage interest, rent, rates and insurance.
Indeed, the Tax Office provides a “bonus deduction” of 50% for small businesses with qualifying assets.
And finally 10th of the top 10 myths
Being at home all day is awesome.
Office dwellers commonly think that working from home is an indulgent luxury that they’d give their right arm to experience. In reality, working from home by yourself for a long period can be quite taxing. Entrepreneurs often miss the collaboration and
interaction that comes with working alongside colleagues.
You need a staged plan that lists the people who are your keys to success. This means that you identify business leaders, distributors and potential customers who you plan to meet and greet.”
By doing this you are proactively establishing what’s new and different and can overcome that sense of being cut off by your start-up activities.
Pick up the phone, send them an email and invite their comment on what you are doing.
Summary of the top 10 myths
Home Businesses are smart businesses, and becoming more and more popular. The old fashioned bricks and mortar businesses are great, but hugely expensive in comparison. For traditional retail they are best , but for digital direct sales or similar, home business is the perfect choice. But please remember, when you are working, you are working. I have a sign on my office door saying (not in these exact words)
Office hours 8:30am to 4pm. So… Get Lost, I’m Working.
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