Live a life of Value.

Rohn: How to Live a Life of Value

A BIG thanks to success magazine for these brilliant articles. I always read and re-read every word. I will always value and recommend anything from Success Magazine … Enjoy …
Cheers,    Christine Greig
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Develop a new discipline of observing rather than ignoring, of doing rather than neglecting.

One of the major reasons people are not doing well is because they keep trying to get through the day. A more worthy challenge is to try to get from the day.

We must become sensitive enough to observe and ponder what is happening around us. Be alert. Be awake. Let life and all of its subtle messages touch us. Often the most extraordinary opportunities are hidden among the seemingly insignificant events of life. If we do not pay attention to these events, we can easily miss the opportunities.

Related: Rohn: How Do You Attract Opportunity Into Your Life?

We must become good observers and astute evaluators of all that is going on around us. All events affect us, and what affects us leaves an imprint on what we will one day be and how we will one day live. Our philosophy about activity and our attitude about hard work will affect the quality of our lives.

Every time we choose to do less than we could, this error in judgment has an effect on our self-confidence. Repeated every day, we soon find ourselves not only doing less than we should, but also being less than we could. The accumulative effect of this error in judgment can be devastating. Fortunately, it’s easy to reverse the process.

Today we can develop a new discipline of observing rather than ignoring, of doing rather than neglecting. Every time we choose action over ease or labor over rest, we develop an increasing level of self-worth, self-respect and self-confidence.

It is how we feel about ourselves that provides the greatest reward from any activity. It is not what we get that makes us valuable; it is what we become in the process of doing that brings value into our lives. It is activity that converts human dreams into human reality, and that conversion from idea into actuality gives us a personal value that can come from no other source.

So be a good observer of the world around you and enjoy the hard work you put into enterprising—then enjoy it to its fullest!

Cheers, Chrissy with my good friend and mentor Mr. Shane Krider

 

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and Best Ever Home Business prosperity of life blog

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10 Things $uccessful people Never do Again

Being a HUGE fan of Success Magazine I thought … again… I would share this article about the 10 things I will never do again.

10 Things Successful People Never Do Again

We all make mistakes but the people who thrive from their mistakes are the successful ones.
June 24, 2014

“Never go back.” What does that mean? From observations of successful people, clinical psychologist and author of Never Go Back: 10 Things You’ll Never Do Again (Howard Books, June 2014), Dr. Henry Cloud has discovered certain “awakenings” that people have—in life and in business—that once they have them, they never go back to the old way of doing things. And when that happens, they are never the same. In short, they got it.

“Years ago, a bad business decision of mine led to an interesting discussion with my mentor,” Dr. Cloud says. “I had learned a valuable lesson the hard way, and he reassured me: ‘The good thing is once you learn that lesson, you never go back. It’s one thing you will never do again.’

“I wondered, what are the key awakenings that successful people go through that forever change how they do things, which propel them to succeed in business, relationships, and life? I began to study these awakenings, researching them over the years.”

Although life and business have many lessons to teach us, Dr. Cloud observed 10 “doorways” of learning that high performers go through, never to return again.

Successful people never again…

1. Return to what hasn’t worked.

Whether a job, or a broken relationship that was ended for a good reason, we should never go back to the same thing, expecting different results, without something being different.

2. Do anything that requires them to be someone they are not.

In everything we do, we have to ask ourselves, “Why am I doing this? Am I suited for it? Does it fit me? Is it sustainable?” If the answer is no to any of these questions, you better have a very good reason to proceed.

3. Try to change another person.

When you realize that you cannot force someone into doing something, you give him or her freedom and allow them to experience the consequences. In doing so, you find your own freedom as well. My experience has told me to never do again.

4. Believe they can please everyone.

Once you get that it truly is impossible to please everyone, you begin to live purposefully, trying to please the right people.

5. Choose short-term comfort over long-term benefit.

Once successful people know they want something that requires a painful, time-limited step, they do not mind the painful step because it gets them to a long-term benefit. Living out this principle is one of the most fundamental differences between successful and unsuccessful people, both personally and professionally.

6. Trust someone or something that appears flawless.

It’s natural for us to be drawn to things and people that appear “incredible.” We love excellence and should always be looking for it. We should pursue people who are great at what they do, employees who are high performers, dates who are exceptional people, friends who have stellar character, and companies that excel. But when someone or something looks too good to be true, he, she, or it is. The world is imperfect. Period. No one and no thing is without flaw, and if they appear that way, hit pause.

7. Take their eyes off the big picture.

We function better emotionally and perform better in our lives when we can see the big picture. For successful people, no one event is ever the whole story. Winners remember that – each and every day.

8. Neglect to do due diligence.

No matter how good something looks on the outside, it is only by taking a deeper, diligent, and honest look that we will find out what we truly need to know: the reality that we owe ourselves.

9. Fail to ask why they are where they find themselves.

One of the biggest differences between successful people and others is that in love and in life, in relationships and in business, successful people always ask themselves, what part am I playing in this situation? Said another way, they do not see themselves only as victims, even when they are.

10. Forget that their inner life determines their outer success.

This is one thing for sure I will never do again.

The good life sometimes has little to do with outside circumstances. We are happy and fulfilled mostly by who we are on the inside. Research validates that. And our internal lives largely contribute to producing many of our external circumstances.

And, the converse is true: people who are still trying to find success in various areas of life can almost always point to one or more of these patterns as a reason they are repeating the same mistakes.

Everyone makes mistakes…even the most successful people out there. But, what achievers do better than others is recognize the patterns that are causing those mistakes and never repeat them again. In short, they learn from pain—their own and the pain of others.

A good thing to remember is this: pain is unavoidable, but repeating the same pain twice, when we could choose to learn and do something different, is certainly avoidable. I like to say, “we don’t need new ways to fail….the old ones are working just fine!” Our task, in business and in life, is to observe what they are, and never go back to doing them again.

 Thanks for reading
Cheers, Chrissy

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and Best Ever Home Business prosperity of life blog

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Top 10 Myths about Home Based Business

Top 10 Myths about Home Businesses.

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1st of the top 10 myths
The hours are easy.

Lets displace the top 10 myths. It’s tempting to think that running a home-based business involves a few hours on the computer in the morning, a nice leisurely lunch, maybe a phone call or two in the afternoon before an early finish.
However, if your business is to be anything other than a mildly diverting sideline, you will have to put in the work.
“When you’re by yourself, you do everything – bookkeeping, marketing, sales, the lot,” says Christine Greig, who runs BestEverHomeBusiness.com from home and has done for 7 years.
“All of this takes a lot of time and people underestimate this. They often take things on as a hobby and then find it is very popular and organically grows. They don’t think long-term.”
Set a strategy for your business early on, have an in-depth business plan. And consider outsourcing – it’ll save you time.

2. You can sit back and get rich quickly.

Despite what the endless ads tell you, there aren’t any jobs that will earn you big bucks just by staying at home making the odd phone call.
You look at the content behind those stupid Google ads about homeworking and it promises that you’ll be working for about seven minutes a day.
You can be a success if you have the right business model but, if not, you’ll fall on your face.
People who are pushed into home working because they lose their job or think they will get rich quick are more likely to fall over. They set up a Facebook page and wonder why no one has turned up.
It’s better to start a business that you’re passionate about. You’re then more likely to be proactive and engage with people.

3. You don’t need to spend money on day care.

For busy parents, working from home may seem like the ideal solution – not only do you see more of your family but you also save money on day care for your children.
Right?
You will regularly, need a babysitter for your children, and hubby can help out, but you need the balance as you may need to go out for meetings.
Also, you won’t keep to normal working hours, kids at school?

4. It’s not a real job.

Perhaps the most hurtful myth about home-based working, is that it is somehow a lesser job. That it is a frivolous hobby for bored mothers or fathers, rather than a platform for fast-growth businesses, ignoring the fact that the likes of Google, FaceBook and Amazon started life as home-based start-ups.
People tell me “that it’s not a real job” a bit frustrating.
It has got a bit of a bad rap, look at the number of people who work from home. Look at what many of them go on to achieve. They are worthwhile businesses and they are contributing to the economy.

5th of the top 10 myths
All you’re doing is moving your job to your home.

This maybe so but the biggest advantage here is no commute. If you set up your office to be efficient tidy and productive you will find you will be more aware of what needs to be done and when. (efficiency). The way communication is now, nobody cares or would even know you are not sitting on the 36th floor, or sitting in your home office looking out of your window and in my case, a green paddock with 5 horses.

6. You don’t have to worry about health and safety.

If you are wallowing in a messy, potentially dangerous home-based office, you risk more than being called a slob.
Not only is your own health and safety important if you are to keep running your business, but any staff and clients will need to be protected too, as a recent case where Telstra had to pay medical and legal costs for an injured home worker highlighted.
Ensuring that your home is a safe workplace doesn’t happen by chance or guesswork.
It requires a systematic approach to finding and fixing hazards and risks and any particular circumstances that apply to your home working base.”
I advise going through five key steps to get your OHS in good shape:

*Finding hazards that could hurt the people who either live, work or visit your home.
*Family forums that bring together all of these people on a regular basis to make sure that they are as safety conscious as you are and
undertake the safety drills that are an essential part of hazard awareness.
*Figuring out how the people in and around your home life could get hurt and working life hazards (the level of risk).
*Fixing identified problems by sorting out and installing the most effective risk controls that are reasonably practicable under your
circumstances.
*Following through on your risk controls and checking that they are working to cope when things do not go according to plan.

7th of the top 10 myths
Your home life will remain exactly the same.

Home is a nice place to relax and turn off after a long, hard day at work. Surely, if you spend all day there, you will be permanently in the comfort zone?
Firstly, map your own interests and personal priorities and then set out how the start-up is going to help you achieve your objectives.
Be honest with yourself and answer these core questions: How will this venture change our way of life? What do I really like doing, and how will it shape my family’s future?
Who can support me while I get the business up and running? Where will all this take us and what will it cost to succeed?
Then you need to set aside a fixed amount of time for your business homework, when the kids have done theirs and get partners and friends to share the burden of developing your start-up as an adjunct to your family life rather than an alternative to it.

8. Clients won’t take you seriously.

Many budding entrepreneurs fret about the impression left upon clients by their home office.
Obviously, you don’t want to hold an important meeting with a key client while you are both wedged on the sofa, trying to ignore the child that is watching cartoons on the TV.
But this doesn’t mean that it’s impossible to convey a professional demeanour to clients.
If they have to come to your house, set aside a room for meetings and ensure there aren’t any interruptions. Better still, hold the meeting at a café or at a serviced office that you can rent out by the hour.
There are other tricks to making your business appear bigger, such as adopting a 1800 telephone number, but, ultimately, your customers will primarily care about the products or service you provide them. You working from home shouldn’t be a factor.

9th of the top 10 myths.
There’s no good financial reason, other than cutting overheads.

A common rationale for working from home is the money it will save you on office space, furniture and commuting.
But don’t be fooled into thinking that there is little other financial reason to working from home other than the overheads you’ll save on.
Australia’s tax code is fairly generous for entrepreneurs with home offices, with deductions offered for factors such as electricity, cleaning supplies, depreciation of office equipment, mortgage interest, rent, rates and insurance.
Indeed, the Tax Office provides a “bonus deduction” of 50% for small businesses with qualifying assets.

And finally 10th of the top 10 myths
Being at home all day is awesome.

Office dwellers commonly think that working from home is an indulgent luxury that they’d give their right arm to experience. In reality, working from home by yourself for a long period can be quite taxing. Entrepreneurs often miss the collaboration and
interaction that comes with working alongside colleagues.
You need a staged plan that lists the people who are your keys to success. This means that you identify business leaders, distributors and potential customers who you plan to meet and greet.”
By doing this you are proactively establishing what’s new and different and can overcome that sense of being cut off by your start-up activities.
Pick up the phone, send them an email and invite their comment on what you are doing.

Summary of the top 10 myths

Home Businesses are smart businesses, and becoming more and more popular. The old fashioned bricks and mortar businesses are great, but hugely expensive in comparison. For traditional retail they are best , but for digital direct sales or similar, home business is the perfect choice. But please remember, when you are working, you are working. I have a sign on my office door saying (not in these exact words)

Office hours 8:30am to 4pm. So… Get Lost, I’m Working.

p.s.   More interesting reading on my other blogs.

Live Free Retire Wealthy for those who want an easy life. Start now otherwise time will be your enemy. I say this from experience.

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Best Ever Home Business for those looking for a Brilliant Home Business Opportunity. This has been going for 7 years now and counting.

and Best Ever Home Business prosperity of life blog

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Found a Home Based Business, now what?

So… you have found a potential home based business … Now What ???

There are HUGE benefits of a good Home Based Business.
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I have found from experience, the best thing to do when searching for information about your recently found Home Based Business opportunity is, avoid ALL chat rooms and most google search results about your discovery as they ALWAYS ALWAYS sensationalize the negative. (If you search for positive or negative about any topic, you will find it).
These rooms are mainly used to drive traffic to their site and therefore get top ranking as to drive the advertising dollar up, so they make money from mostly fiction with the click thru system.
Exactly the same with most news programs. High priced primetime advertising due to the magnetic attraction of negative news, is a perfect example. We humans are a weird bunch….
eg. CNN (Constantly Negative News)

Only YOU can determine what is your idea of fact or fiction in a home based business op by doing your due diligence. Don’t let a complete stranger influence your decision.

Talk directly to the boss.
If you can’t talk with anyone, move on.
Ask questions like,

1) What are the Startup Costs compared to the potential results for this Home Based Business Opportunity?

How much are the start up costs for the home based business opportunity you’re considering? Are there ongoing costs? If so, what will they entail and how much are they?

This is especially important if you don’t have much money to invest. Some businesses have ongoing costs in maintenance, so you want to get these questions answered.
All business that are worth you time and effort require financial committment.
eg. 1 million dollars plus for a McDonalds franchise.

2) What Kind of Training and Support are Available with the Home Based Business Opportunity?

The training and support offered by a company will make a huge difference in your success, providing you follow exactly and do not try to re-invent the wheel.

Do you have a quality sponsor and upline with good ethics and leadership skills? Are they dedicated to helping you succeed?

If the training materials and company leadership are good, you will grow your business faster and it will be easier to succeed.

3) What are the Rules for Advertising and Promotion?

Many home business opportunities have rules regarding how and where you can advertise. In some cases you may have strict limitations, and in others you may be able to do more or less whatever you want. For example, the company names are often copyrighted and/or trademarked and therefore you are not allowed to use them in advertising without permission.
All reputable businesses have these rules to protect their integrity.

4) What is the Realistic Income Potential for this Home Based Business Opportunity?

Tip: Don’t ask what the average is because, you do not want average results.
Just remember in every business in the world, it is normally 5% of participants who really apply themselves, who get the big bucks. Do exactly what they do.

Some businesses have considerably more income potential than others and before you invest your time and money into any home based business opportunity, you should understand how much you could realistically expect to make. This means studying the compensation plan and running the numbers. Always follow the system to the letter otherwise you may make zero, while others are making a bucket load.

It’s also important to understand your breakeven point and how long it may take for you to reach the level of income that the home based business opportunity claims is possible or that you’ve set as a goal.
Make sure you make your committment years, instead of weeks like a lot of people do, and then say, “this doesn’t work”. 3 feet from gold.

5) How Long Has the Company Offering the Home Based Business Opportunity Been in Business?

A brand new company has no track record and it can therefore, be unstable. A company that has been in business for more than five years has financial stability. The company I am with is now worth $170 million.
Check if the company is in the Direct Selling Association, which requires a level ethics and standards for member companies.

6) What Products or Services are Involved with this Home Based Business Opportunity?

What are their products like? Are they high quality and worth the price? Would you buy them even if you weren’t associated?
But also remember you must be a product of the product before you can recommend it with confidence.

Is the product consumable requiring customers to reorder on a regular basis? Consumable products create more stability and regularity of income due to repeat customers. Non-consumable products can only be sold once and then you have to go out and find more customers.

7) Are There Quotas or Minimum Inventory Requirements for this Home Based Business Opportunity?

If you are required by the company to buy a large quantity of products on a regular basis then it can be difficult to maintain the business or it can be financially stressful if you need to temporarily stop working your business. The last thing you want is a basement full of unused products. While it’s nice to have a little bit of inventory, be wary of any company that asks you stock a huge amount of product. I would run away.

8) Are the Products or Services that this Home Based Business Opportunity Will Offer Affordable?

Affordable is a funny word. You ask, affordable, according to who and compared to what.
Affordability is always governed by your idea of value.
A good reputable company will always offer a try before you buy or a money back guarantee.
BUT…. make dam sure you apply yourself to the business 110% otherwise you will never know the true benefits.

p.s.   More interesting reading on my other blogs.

Live Free Retire Wealthy for those who want an easy life. Start now otherwise time will be your enemy. I say this from experience.

More Time to Ride for the horse lovers

Best Ever Home Business for those looking for a Brilliant Home Business Opportunity. This has been going for 7 years now and counting.

and Best Ever Home Business prosperity of life blog

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I couldn’t spell entrepreneur at school

In school, we’re taught to obey the rules, to do things by the book, and if you stray away from the pack, you’re quickly pushed back into the mold the education system puts us all into. If you had and thoughts of being an entrepreneur, the herd would drag you back in. A strong minded individual would be kicking and screaming. The true spirit of an individual.

 

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          Traditional school is the worst possible place for an entrepreneur.

An Entrepreneur thinks differently, and frankly, everyone thinks and learns differently. Which is why a system that makes everyone think the same is killing the entrepreneurial spirit. Entrepreneurs go against the norm, and refuse to be forced into a life or way of thinking. Entrepreneurs want to create, not follow a rule book created by someone else.

Entrepreneurship Can Rarely Be Taught In Class.
Today, education is changing. While most kids in school still don’t learn about money and business through high school, university business schools are now offering entrepreneurship programs for those interested in building their own business.

Any attempt to further the cause of entrepreneurship is admirable, but being a successful entrepreneur can rarely be taught in a classroom. Entrepreneurs have to be flexible, adapt to changing circumstances quickly. They have to have spirit. They have to fight through adversity. These things cannot come from school.

Where do Entrepreneurs Get an Education?

If you’ve ever met a successful entrepreneur you probably noticed they don’t like to waste time. Their time is valuable since they are doing so many things on their own. For most entrepreneurs, learning from their own mistakes and other entrepreneurs is the way to go. This is why incubators, networking events, and mentor-ship programs are great places to start for an education in owning your own business. Not only are these great places to meet people but they are also great places for resources like funding, accounting, marketing and technology—all things that entrepreneurs need.

So, do entrepreneurs need to be “smart” to be successful? Yes… just not in the way most people think of “smart”.

A big thanks to the brilliant words at Success Magazine.

Cheers, Chrissy

p.s.   More interesting reading on my other blogs.

Live Free Retire Wealthy for those who want an easy life. Start now otherwise time will be your enemy. I say this from experience.

More Time to Ride for the horse lovers

Best Ever Home Business for those looking for a Brilliant Home Business Opportunity. This has been going for 7 years now and counting.

and Best Ever Home Business prosperity of life blog

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IQ vs Emotional Intelligence.

18 Signs You Have High Emotional Intelligence

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Do you have emotional intelligence? Here’s how to know for sure.

March 3, 2016

Measuring emotional intelligence can be difficult because of its intangible nature. But Dr. Travis Bradberry has analyzed the data from the million-plus people that TalentSmart has tested for EQ to help identify the behaviors that are sure signs you have a high EQ. He shares them with us in this article, originally published on LinkedIn Pulse.

When emotional intelligence (EQ) first appeared to the masses, it served as the missing link in a peculiar finding: People with average IQs outperform those with the highest IQs 70 percent of the time. This anomaly threw a massive wrench into the broadly-held assumption that IQ was the sole source of success.

Decades of research now point to emotional intelligence as being the critical factor that sets star performers apart from the rest of the pack. The connection is so strong that we know 90 percent of top performers have high emotional intelligence.

Related: Why You Need Emotional Intelligence to Succeed.

Emotional intelligence is the “something” in each of us that is a bit intangible. It affects how we manage behavior, navigate social complexities and make personal decisions to achieve positive results.

Despite the significance of EQ, its intangible nature makes it very difficult to know how much you have and what you can do to improve if you’re lacking. You can always take a scientifically validated test, such as the one that comes with the Emotional Intelligence 2.0 book.

Unfortunately, quality (scientifically valid) EQ tests aren’t free. So, I’ve analyzed the data from the million-plus people that TalentSmart has tested in order to identify the behaviors that are the hallmarks of a high EQ. What follows are sure signs that you have a high EQ.

1. You have a robust emotional vocabulary.

All people experience emotions, but it is a select few who can accurately identify them as they occur. Our research shows that only 36 percent of people can do this, which is problematic because unlabeled emotions often go misunderstood, which leads to irrational choices and counterproductive actions.

People with high EQs master their emotions because they understand them, and they use an extensive vocabulary of feelings to do so. While many people might describe themselves as simply feeling “bad,” emotionally intelligent people can pinpoint whether they feel “irritable,” “frustrated,” “downtrodden,” or “anxious.” The more specific your word choice, the better insight you have into exactly how you are feeling, what caused it and what you should do about it.

2. You’re curious about people.

It doesn’t matter if they’re introverted or extroverted, emotionally intelligent people are curious about everyone around them. This curiosity is the product of empathy, one of the most significant gateways to a high EQ. The more you care about other people and what they’re going through, the more curiosity you’re going to have about them.

3. You embrace change.

Emotionally intelligent people are flexible and are constantly adapting. They know that fear of change is paralyzing and a major threat to their success and happiness. They look for change that is lurking just around the corner, and they form a plan of action should these changes occur.

Related:3 Tips to Open Your Heart, Mind and Life to Change

4. You know your strengths and weaknesses.

Emotionally intelligent people don’t just understand emotions; they know what they’re good at and what they’re terrible at. They also know who pushes their buttons and the environments (both situations and people) that enable them to succeed. Having a high EQ means you know your strengths and you know how to lean into them and use them to your full advantage while keeping your weaknesses from holding you back.

5. You’re a good judge of character.

Much of emotional intelligence comes down to social awareness; the ability to read other people, know what they’re about, and understand what they’re going through. Over time, this skill makes you an exceptional judge of character. People are no mystery to you. You know what they’re all about and understand their motivations, even those that lie hidden beneath the surface.

6. You are difficult to offend.

If you have a firm grasp of whom you are, it’s difficult for someone to say or do something that gets your goat. Emotionally intelligent people are self-confident and open-minded, which creates a pretty thick skin. You may even poke fun at yourself or let other people make jokes about you because you are able to mentally draw the line between humor and degradation.

Related:8 Ways to Be a More Confident Person

7. You know how to say no (to yourself and others).

Emotional intelligence means knowing how to exert self-control. You delay gratification, and you avoid impulsive action. Research conducted at the University of California, San Francisco, shows that the more difficulty that you have saying no, the more likely you are to experience stress, burnout and even depression. Saying no is indeed a major self-control challenge for many people. “No” is a powerful word that you should not be afraid to wield. When it’s time to say no, emotionally intelligent people avoid phrases such as “I don’t think I can” or “I’m not certain.” Saying no to a new commitment honors your existing commitments and gives you the opportunity to successfully fulfill them.

8. You let go of mistakes.

Emotionally intelligent people distance themselves from their mistakes, but do so without forgetting them. By keeping their mistakes at a safe distance, yet still handy enough to refer to, they are able to adapt and adjust for future success. It takes refined self-awareness to walk this tightrope between dwelling and remembering. Dwelling too long on your mistakes makes you anxious and gun shy, while forgetting about them completely makes you bound to repeat them. The key to balance lies in your ability to transform failures into nuggets of improvement. This creates the tendency to get right back up every time you fall down.

               Related:Why Failure Is Good for Success

9. You give and expect nothing in return.

When someone gives you something spontaneously, without expecting anything in return, this leaves a powerful impression. For example, you might have an interesting conversation with someone about a book, and when you see them again a month later, you show up with the book in hand. Emotionally intelligent people build strong relationships because they are constantly thinking about others.

10. You don’t hold grudges.

The negative emotions that come with holding onto a grudge are actually a stress response. Just thinking about the event sends your body into fight-or-flight mode, a survival mechanism that forces you to stand up and fight or run for the hills when faced with a threat. When the threat is imminent, this reaction is essential to your survival, but when the threat is ancient history, holding onto that stress wreaks havoc on your body and can have devastating health consequences over time. In fact, researchers at Emory University have shown that holding onto stress contributes to high blood pressure and heart disease. Holding onto a grudge means you’re holding onto stress, and emotionally intelligent people know to avoid this at all costs. Letting go of a grudge not only makes you feel better now but can also improve your health.

11. You neutralize toxic people.

Dealing with difficult people is frustrating and exhausting for most. High EQ individuals control their interactions with toxic people by keeping their feelings in check. When they need to confront a toxic person, they approach the situation rationally. They identify their own emotions and don’t allow anger or frustration to fuel the chaos. They also consider the difficult person’s standpoint and are able to find solutions and common ground. Even when things completely derail, emotionally intelligent people are able to take the toxic person with a grain of salt to avoid letting him or her bring them down.

12. You don’t seek perfection.

Emotionally intelligent people won’t set perfection as their target because they know that it doesn’t exist. Human beings, by our very nature, are fallible. When perfection is your goal, you’re always left with a nagging sense of failure that makes you want to give up or reduce your effort. You end up spending your time lamenting what you failed to accomplish and what you should have done differently instead of moving forward, excited about what you’ve achieved and what you will accomplish in the future.

               Related:5 Ways Perfectionism Is Getting in Your Way

13. You appreciate what you have.

Taking time to contemplate what you’re grateful for isn’t merely the right thing to do; it also improves your mood because it reduces the stress hormone cortisol by 23 percent. Research conducted at the University of California, Davis, found that people who worked daily to cultivate an attitude of gratitude experienced improved mood, energy and physical well-being. It’s likely that lower levels of cortisol played a major role in this.

14. You disconnect.

Taking regular time off the grid is a sign of a high EQ because it helps you to keep your stress under control and to live in the moment. When you make yourself available to your work 24/7, you expose yourself to a constant barrage of stressors. Forcing yourself offline and even—gulp!—turning off your phone gives your body and mind a break. Studies have shown that something as simple as an email break can lower stress levels. Technology enables constant communication and the expectation that you should be available 24/7. It is extremely difficult to enjoy a stress-free moment outside of work when an email that will change your train of thought and get you thinking (read: stressing) about work can drop onto your phone at any moment.

15. You limit your caffeine intake.

Drinking excessive amounts of caffeine triggers the release of adrenaline, and adrenaline is the source of the fight-or-flight response. The fight-or-flight mechanism sidesteps rational thinking in favor of a faster response to ensure survival. This is great when a bear is chasing you, but not so great when you’re responding to a curt email. When caffeine puts your brain and body into this hyper-aroused state of stress, your emotions overrun your behavior. Caffeine’s long half-life ensures you stay this way as it takes its sweet time working its way out of your body. High-EQ individuals know that caffeine is trouble, and they don’t let it get the better of them.

16. You get enough sleep.

It’s difficult to overstate the importance of sleep to increasing your emotional intelligence and managing your stress levels. When you sleep, your brain literally recharges, shuffling through the day’s memories and storing or discarding them (which causes dreams) so that you wake up alert and clearheaded. High-EQ individuals know that their self-control, attention, and memory are all reduced when they don’t get enough—or the right kind—of sleep. So, they make sleep a top priority.

Related:Sleep Deprivation Is Killing You and Your Career

17. You stop negative self-talk in its tracks.

The more you ruminate on negative thoughts, the more power you give them. Most of our negative thoughts are just that—thoughts, not facts. When it feels like something always or never happens, this is just your brain’s natural tendency to perceive threats (inflating the frequency or severity of an event). Emotionally intelligent people separate their thoughts from the facts in order to escape the cycle of negativity and move toward a positive, new outlook.

18. You won’t let anyone limit your joy.

When your sense of pleasure and satisfaction are derived from the opinions of other people, you are no longer the master of your own happiness. When emotionally intelligent people feel good about something that they’ve done, they won’t let anyone’s opinions or snide remarks take that away from them. While it’s impossible to turn off your reactions to what others think of you, you don’t have to compare yourself to others, and you can always take people’s opinions with a grain of salt. That way, no matter what other people are thinking or doing, your self-worth comes from within.

A big thank you to success.com for always inspiring me…. Chrissy Greig

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